August 2000
The Code…
Most women know “The Code”. Most women would never break “The Code”. I broke “The Code” once when I was 17 and I swore then that I would never; ever break “The Code” again. That’s what happens. If you screw up, you never make the same mistake again. It’s ingrained in us. It’s almost as if we take a silent oath. Similar to the oath men take to never actually call when they say they will.
“The Code” is as follows:
No woman, at any time, shall covet a friend’s old boyfriend; new boyfriend; object of desire (lust or love) or even platonic friend.
No woman, at any time, shall EVER be with a KNOWN “attached” man. Any man that has a girlfriend, lover, fiancé or wife is STRICTLY OFF LIMITS! If a man pretends he is un-attached and then you find out he is attached, you must quickly dump him, belittle him for his disgusting patterns and point out the obvious – his current girlfriend, lover, fiancé or wife is far too good for him.
An amendment to “The Code”:
One friend, at any time, may give permission to another friend to covet said old boyfriend; new boyfriend; object of desire (lust or love) or even platonic friend, but can, at any time, revoke that permission and be angry for no reason. The guilty girlfriend must, at once, drop any and all contact with the coveted old boyfriend; new boyfriend; object of desire (lust or love) or even platonic friend and never question her friends jealousy.
I am an extremely jealous person.
When I was 18, I walked into my boyfriend’s house and saw him in bed with another woman. I quickly walked out and broke up with him that afternoon {after he was able to crawl away from his ‘love’ nest}.
When I was 26, I woke up and saw the Dick-Boy kiss another girl goodbye in front of the home we shared. The next morning, when he awoke from his drunken stupor, I kicked him out.
The code and cheating go hand in hand. I will not tolerate cheating.
Because I have been cheated on – [TWICE!] – I would never; ever cheat on a boyfriend. I would also never cause a man to cheat on his current girlfriend, lover, fiancé or wife because I know how that girl would feel if she found out.
Now of course I’m not naïve enough to think that all women know or follow the code. But I can tell you that the good ones do.
I have an acquaintance that doesn’t follow the code. She’ll be with anyone she fancies – which is why she is an acquaintance and not a friend. My real friends and I actually have to plan around when we can be with her, so she doesn’t upset others with her non-code following ways. It’s difficult, but we manage.
I know many men that are wonderful, witty, intelligent men. They would make the perfect mate {or playmate} for me. However, those men belong to other women. I embrace those wonderful men as friends because that’s all they can and should be.
I know the code and I’ll never break it. I promise.